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Showing posts with label psychodynamic psychotherapy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label psychodynamic psychotherapy. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 12, 2026

How Can Your Dreams Help You to Develop a Deeper Understanding of Yourself?

Dreams are an internal bridge to your unconscious mind.

Develop a Deeper Understanding of Yourself Through Dreams

Dreams help you to process your emotions, problems-solve and confront unresolved fears and desires. This is why they are such a rich source of information about your internal world.

How Can Dreams Help You to Develop a Deeper Understanding of Yourself?
Since dreams bypass the logical part of your waking mind, you can gain a deeper understanding of your unconscious mind in the following ways:
  • Emotional Processing and Regulation: Dreams can help you to identify emotions and work through unprocessed emotions which helps with emotional regulation.
  • Identifying Blindspots: Since dreams bypass your logical conscious mind, they can reveal aspects of yourself that you're not aware of during your waking state including blindspots (see my article: Overcoming Emotional Blindspots).
Develop a Deeper Understanding of Yourself Through Dreams

  • Creative Problem Solving: Dreams can provide you with a fresh perspective on challenges you are trying to resolve. They can provide ways to practice responses to these challenges that you might not think of when you're awake.
  • Highlighting Unresolved Problems: Recurring dreams are often signals about ongoing stressors or unresolved conflicts. 
How Can You Remember and Use Your Dreams For Self Discovery?
Here are some practical tips that can be helpful:
  • Set a Pre-sleep Intention: Before going to sleep, tell yourself that you will remember your dreams.
  • Stay Still When You Wake Up: When you wake up, don't move or open your eyes immediately.  Physical movement and sensory input (light) can make it more difficult to remember dreams.
  • Dream Delving: Dream delving is also called reverse recall. If you only remember a fragment of your dream, focus on that fragment, image or emotion and work backwards. Ask yourself, "Where was I?" and "What was I doing in the dream?". It's also helpful to be aware of the emotions you're experience upon waking up to see if these emotions are related to your dreams.
  • Keeping a Dream Journal: Recording dreams in a dream journal on a consistent basis can help improve dream recall and help you to see growth patterns over time.
  • Active Dream Participation: Techniques like rewriting nightmares after you wake up allow you to consciously interact with the dream material to face fears directly and allow you to work through unresolved issues (see my article: Transforming Nightmares Through Creative Dreamwork).
How Can Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Help You to Understand Your Dreams?
Psychodynamic psychotherapy can help you to understand your dreams by providing a collaborative framework with your therapist to identify symbolic imagery, emotional patterns and unconscious conflicts and desires.

Psychodynamic psychotherapy can help:
  • Identify Themes: Psychodynamic therapists can help you to spot recurring symbols and emotional patterns that might signal unresolved issues.
Develop a Deeper Understanding of Yourself Through Dreams
  • Help With Emotional Regulation: Psychodynamic therapists can help to unpack dreams, including nightmares or scary dreams which can help you to manage your emotions.
  • Provide a Safe Place For Exploration: Therapy provides a safe space to explore difficult feelings that can surface in dreams. 
  • Help With Behavioral Change: When you gain a better understanding of your dreams, this understanding can provide a catalyst to make changes in your life.
There are many different ways of doing dreamwork (see the links below other articles).

About Me
I am a licensed New York psychodynamic psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, EFT (for couples), Parts Work (IFS and Ego States Therapy), Somatic Experiencing and Certified Sex Therapist.

I have helped many individual adults and couples over the years.

To find out more about me, visit my website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist.

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.

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Tuesday, December 16, 2025

How is Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) a Psychodynamic Therapy?

In my prior article,  How is Contemporary Psychodynamic Therapy Different From Traditional Psychoanalysis?, I discussed the difference between contemporary (modern) psychodynamic therapy and traditional (Freudian) psychoanalysis.

AEDP as a Psychodynamic Therapy

In the current article, I'm discussing how Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) is a type of psychodynamic psychotherapy.

What is AEDP?
AEDP was developed by clinician and researcher, Dr. Diana Fosha.

See my two prior articles:


How is AEDP a Psychodynamic Therapy?
AEDP is a psychodynamic therapy because it stems from psychodynamic principles.

The psychodynamic roots of AEDP include concepts such as:
AEDP as a Psychodynamic Therapy
  • Exploration of Defenses: AEDP delves into how we use defense mechanisms (ways to avoid emotional and psychological pain) which were developed as a strategy to cope with overwhelming pain. This is a core concept of psychodynamic therapy.
  • Relational Focus: AEDP emphasizes the relationship between the client and the therapist as crucial to the client's healing. This is an essential part of psychodynamic psychotherapy.
How is AEDP Different From Psychodynamic Therapy?
  • Experiential and Focused on Emotion: Instead of only analyzing the past, AEDP focuses on the here-and-now to fully focus on emotions as they arise in the therapy using these moments as a catalyst for change (see my article: Riding the Waves of Transformation).
AEDP as a Psychodynamic Therapy
  • Accelerated Healing: The "Accelerated" part of AEDP refers to harnessing the client's powerful emotional experiences, including emotions like joy and grief, to facilitate accelerated healing (as compared to most psychodynamic therapies) rather than a slow exploration of the client's dynamics (see my article: How Does AEDP Work?).
  • The Client's Innate Resilience: AEDP assumes that people are hardwired for resilience. AEDP focuses on and amplifies what is already working for the client. This helps to build the client's existing strengths which promotes the client's flourishing. This is a significant difference from many forms of psychodynamic therapy which focus on the pathology (pathology in this context refers to mental and behavioral patterns that are dysfunctional).
Conclusion
AEDP uses psychodynamic principles, but it deepens and tends to speed up the process by getting clients to feel and transform emotions experientially within a secure, attachment-based therapeutic relationship. This helps clients to unlock their innate capacity for healing (see my article: Why is Experiential Therapy More Effective Than Traditional Therapy to Resolve Trauma).

Get Help in AEDP Therapy
If you have been struggling on your own to cope with unresolved trauma, you could benefit from working with an AEDP therapist.

To find an AEDP therapist near you, you can search on the AEDP directory.

Rather than struggling on your own, seek help from a licensed mental health professional who is trained in AEDP.

About Me
I am a licensed New York psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, EFT (for couples), Parts Work (IFS and Ego States), Somatic Experiencing and Certified Sex Therapist.

As a trauma therapist with more than 25 years of experience, I have helped many individual adults and couples to heal from trauma (see my article: How Trauma Therapy Can Help You Overcome Unresolved Trauma).

To find out more about me, visit my website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist.

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.



 

Monday, December 15, 2025

How is Contemporary Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Different From Traditional Psychoanalysis?

Contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy, a modern therapy, originates from traditional (Freudian) psychoanalysis and there are some similarities between them and many differences.

Psychodynamic Psychotherapy vs Traditional Psychoanalysis

In fact, all therapy originates with Freud, but contemporary psychodynamic therapy has evolved beyond Freudian psychoanalysis in many ways.

Both traditional psychoanalysis and psychodynamic psychotherapy are depth-oriented therapies that strive to get to the root of the client's problems, but there are significant differences between them.
 
How is Contemporary Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Different From Traditional Psychoanalysis?
  • Frequency and Setting: Whereas clients attend traditional psychoanalysis anywhere from 3-5 times a week, clients in contemporary psychodynamic therapy tend to meet once a week either in person or online.
Psychodynamic Psychotherapy vs Traditional Psychoanalysis 
  • Focus: In traditional psychoanalysis there tends to be a deep, extensive exploration of unconscious conflict, early childhood and dream analysis. In contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy, although the unconscious is important, the focus tends to be on current life problems, current interpersonal relationships, emotional expression and recurring patterns which often originate from earlier relationships.
  • Therapist's Role: The therapist's role is a "blank slate" in traditional Freudian psychoanalysis. The neutrality of the traditional psychoanalyst is seen as important to encourage the client's transference which the therapist interprets. However, in contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy the therapist's role is more interactive and dynamic. Instead of just focusing only on the client's transference, psychodynamic therapy focuses on the relationship between the client and therapist--in other words, it focuses on both transference/countertransference of the client and therapist. 
Psychodynamic Psychotherapy vs Traditional Psychoanalysis
  • Duration: Whereas traditional psychoanalysis tends to last for years, contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy tends to be shorter and more focused.
  • Goal: The goal of traditional psychoanalysis is usually to gain insight into repressed conflicts to resolve them. Depending upon the goals of the client, in contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy the goal tends to be improved functioning and self understanding for the client's current challenges.
Psychodynamic Psychotherapy vs Psychoanalysis
  • Accessibility: Compared to traditional psychoanalysis, contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy tends to be more accessible for common problems like depression and anxiety
  • Technique: Whereas traditional psychoanalysis tends to be Freudian, contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy incorporate elements from various other modern theories, including objection relations and attachment theories, among others, not just Freudian psychoanalysis.
My Next Article
In my next article, I'll discuss Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), a cutting edge trauma therapy which is a psychodynamic psychotherapy.

About Me
I am a licensed New York psychotherapist who is a psychodynamic psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, EFT (for couples), Parts Work (IFS and Ego States Therapy), Somatic Experiencing and Certified Sex Therapist.

I work with individual adults and couples.

To find out more about me, visit my website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist.

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.






Sunday, November 27, 2022

Why is the Psychotherapist's Empathic Attunement to a Client's Unconscious Communication So Important in Therapy?

When there is a strong sense of empathic attunement between the therapist and client, when feelings are unspoken and communicated without words.  Feelings can be communicated unconsciously (see my article: Why is Empathy So Important in Psychotherapy?).


A Therapist's Empathic Attunement

Sensing Unconscious Communication
A skilled therapist, who is trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy, can often pick up on a client's unconscious communication during a therapy session.  It often goes the other way too, where an intuitive client can pick up on what is unconsciously being communicated by the therapist.

In fact, at various times, we all pick up on what is unconscious and unspoken in our daily lives, especially with people who are close to us.  Sometimes we're more aware of it than others.

The Psychotherapy Session as a Unique Time and Place For Unconscious Communication
The psychotherapy session is a unique place where a special time is designated on a weekly basis for the therapist and the client to meet to focus on the client's emotional needs.  

There are no interruptions or distractions, so this creates an especially good environment for the therapist to pick up on unconscious communication if she works with unconscious process.

There are times when a therapist might ask about what she senses with the client on an unconscious level because she thinks it would help their work together.  Then, there are other times when she might not because it would be premature and would not serve their work.

As a therapist, I find that it's usually best to ask the client rather than to tell him or her what I might be sensing on the unconscious level for several reasons:
  • First, I could be completely wrong in what I think I'm sensing.  
  • Second, I might be correct, but the client might not be ready to talk about it.  
  • Third, by being somewhat tentative in discussing possible unconscious communication, it allows clients the freedom to reflect on it in their own way rather than imposing my view.
Often, if the therapist is emotionally attuned and the timing is right, talking about what is being unconsciously communicated by the client can open up new areas to be explored in the therapy.

An Example of the Therapist's Empathic Attunement to Unconscious Communication in the Therapy Session
It's not unusual for clients to experience feelings of abandonment when their therapist plans to be away.  These are often unconscious feelings.

Clients, who had behave like adults when they were children, are very good at hiding fear of abandonment. They had a lot of practice as children pretending that they were okay when they really weren't (see my article: Unresolved Childhood Trauma).

Many clients even convinced themselves as children that they were really okay when they really weren't.  So, pretending to be okay to themselves as well as others when they're not comes naturally to them.  They don't even need to think about it.

If the therapist is attuned to a client and also knows the client's history, the therapist can often sense the client's unconscious feelings of abandonment before the therapist goes away.  

It's important for the therapist to be as tactful as possible, especially for clients with unresolved trauma.

If the therapist doesn't use tact and good timing, clients might feel ashamed of their feelings, as they might have when they were children when they were expected to be more mature for their age and psychological development at the time.

But if the therapist is tactful and helps clients to understand that many clients experience similar feelings, especially if they had childhood trauma where they were abandoned emotionally, then it can be a relief to clients. This usually makes discussing what has been communicated unconsciously more meaningful to them.

How Does a Therapist Sense the Client's Unconscious Communication?
Not all therapists work with the unconscious.  For instance, a therapist who is strictly a cognitive behavioral therapist often will not deal with the unconscious mind.  

But assuming that the therapist has training in psychodynamic psychotherapy and is skilled in  detecting unconscious communication, she has different ways she might sense unconscious communication from the client.

For instance, as a psychotherapist who was originally trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy, I often sense physically or emotionally what the client is feeling.  

It's often a visceral feeling for me.  Other times, it's a thought.  Or, I might have a particular song playing in my mind and the words or tune are relevant to what's happening with the client.  

A picture might also flash in my mind's eye that is relevant to my interaction with the client during his or her session.  Then, it 's a matter of whether or not to communicate it to the client and, if so, how.

The Therapist's Attunement Can Be Emotionally Reparative For the Client
The therapist's attunement is usually emotionally reparative experience for clients, especially if they grew up with adults who weren't emotionally attuned to them when they were children.

As previously mentioned, therapists make mistakes at times.  When a therapist makes a mistake with regard to emotional attunement, it's important for the therapist to acknowledge this to the client (see my article: Psychotherapy: Ruptures and Repairs Between You and Your Therapist).


About Me
I am a licensed New York City psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, EFT,  Somatic Experiencing and Sex Therapist. 

I work with individual adults and couples.

As an Experiential Psychotherapist, who is trained in psychodynamic psychotherapy,  I value clients' unconscious communication.

To find out more about me, visit my website:  Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.




















Saturday, February 10, 2018

How Far Do You Want to Go in Your Psychotherapy?

In a prior article, Psychotherapy is an Active Process: The More Engaged You Are In It, the More You Get Out of It, one of the issues that I discussed briefly was the decision as to how far you want to go in psychotherapy--everything from symptom relief to delving deeper into your unconscious process to get to the root of your problem.

How Far Do You Want to Go in Psychotherapy?

As I mentioned in that article, each client makes this decision in consultation with the psychotherapist.  But, ultimately, the decision is up to the client.

If you're new to psychotherapy, you might not understand what your choices are and the implications of these choices.  So, I will provide describe different types of therapy.

Choices in Psychotherapy
The following scenarios describe various choices in psychotherapy for the same client, Ted, at various points in his life:

Short Term Symptom Relief Therapy:  When you choose short term symptom relief, you're usually choosing brief therapy to get rid of a symptom and you're not delving deeper into the problem once you start to feel better.  Ted had his first experience of attending psychotherapy when he saw a psychotherapist to deal with his panic attacks.  Since Ted wasn't interested at that point in more than symptom relief, his psychotherapist taught him how to do breathing exercises and to meditate.  Within a few weeks, Ted was feeling better and he decided to end therapy (see my articles: Tips For Overcoming Panic AttacksWhat is the Difference Between Fear and Anxiety? and Getting Help in Therapy For Anxiety Disorders).

Longer Term Symptom Relief Therapy: Longer term symptom relief is therapy that is longer than short term therapy but shorter than more intensive therapy.  Ted managed well with what he learned in his short term therapy for a few months.  Then, he began a stressful new job and became symptomatic again.  He returned to therapy with the same psychotherapist, and he told her that he still wanted only symptom relief, but he was willing to stay in therapy for a longer period of time to deal with his panic attacks.  Since he stopped doing the breathing exercises and the meditation, his psychotherapist reinforced the stress management techniques she taught him when he first came to her.  She also added more coping techniques so he could deal with the current stressors on his job.  When he felt better and he was no longer experiencing panic attacks, he told his therapist that he wanted to leave therapy.  He understood that he could return in the future.

EMDR Trauma Therapy: Ted returned to his psychotherapist a year later.  He rarely had panic attacks anymore and when he had them, he knew how to calm himself.  However, he was now experiencing persistent anxiety after he met his father again for the first time since he was a young child.  Their meeting was fraught with tension on both sides.  Ted's father wanted to reconcile their relationship, but Ted was leery because he had a lot of resentment towards his father for abandoning the family.  In addition, Ted realized that his boss had similar characteristics to his father, and Ted was getting emotionally triggered whenever he had to work closely with his boss.  His psychotherapist recommended that they do EMDR therapy to work on the unresolved trauma as well as the current situation with his boss.  She explained to Ted that EMDR therapy tends to be faster and more effective than regularly talk therapy.  Gradually, Ted was able to work through his traumatic reactions within a year of beginning EMDR therapy.  He realized that he could have stayed in therapy to develop deeper insights into himself, but he told his therapist that he would return if he felt the need for delving deeper (see my articles: What is EMDR Therapy?How EMDR Works - Part 1: EMDR and the BrainHow EMDR Works - Part 2: Overcoming Trauma, and What is Adjunctive EMDR Therapy?).

Grief Work in Therapy:  Grief work is focused specifically on helping a client to grieve and mourn a loss.  It can be short term or long term.  With regard to Ted, a couple of years later, Ted found out that his father died.  At the time, they were not speaking because they were not able to reconcile their relationship.  When he received the call that his father died, Ted felt profoundly sad for the loss of his father as well as the loss of not ever having a father that met his emotional needs.  He also felt sad because any chance of reconciling their relationship was gone, and he felt very guilty about this as well.  He returned to his psychotherapist and they did grief work to help Ted get through this difficult time.  Between sessions, Ted kept a journal and wrote about his feelings about his father.  He also organized a photo album with pictures of his father and himself from when Ted was younger.  He was able to work through his grief, and he let his therapist know that he was feeling better and he wanted to discontinue therapy (see my articles: Grief: Coping With the Loss of a Loved One: Common ReactionsComplicated GriefThe Theme of Complicated Grief For a Mother in the Movie, Phantom ThreadHolding Onto Grief as a Way to Stay Connected to a Deceased Love One and Trying to Understand Your Father).

Contemporary Psychodynamic Psychotherapy: Psychodynamic psychotherapy is a form of psychoanalysis.  Generally, it focuses on the unconscious mind and might include dreams and daydreams.  It usually also includes exploring transference issues.  When Ted returned to therapy, he felt lost.  He had just ended an enmeshed two year relationship with a woman that he loved very much when they first started seeing each other.  Gradually, they grew apart, and Ted sensed that he contributed significantly to the demise of the relationship because he had problems committing to his then-girlfriend.  He believed that he had issues with trust and this is what made it difficult for him to make a long term commitment.  He felt he was now ready to delve deeper into his unconscious mind to get to know himself better.  He agreed to attend open ended contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy with the understanding that he could leave therapy whenever he wished; however, his therapist recommended that it would be better to work together towards termination in therapy when the time came.  Sometimes, Ted brought in dreams to discuss with his therapist.  He was also interested in exploring the unconscious underpinnings of his problems.  Gradually, his therapist helped Ted to make connections between his original panic attacks, his history of childhood emotional neglect, the loss of his father, and his problems with making a commitment in a relationship.  Ted also felt more emotionally integrated in contemporary psychodynamic psychotherapy (see my article: Discovering the Unconscious Emotions at the Root of Your Problems and What Unconscious Decisions Have You Made That Are Impacting Your Life?).

Conclusion:
The scenarios above show how one person can choose various forms of psychotherapy over a period of time depending upon the problem and what the client is ready to deal with at the time.

Each form of therapy mentioned above serves a particular purpose and could be appropriate at various times in a client's life.

Getting Help in Psychotherapy
When you decide that you would like to attend psychotherapy, the first step is to contact a psychotherapist for a consultation (see my article: The Benefits of Psychotherapy).

During the consultation, you give an overview of your problem and asks the psychotherapist questions about how she works, what type of therapy she does, her expertise and so on.

The psychotherapist will usually make a recommendation within a few sessions as to what form of therapy she thinks would be best for the client given his or her particular problems.  There are usually a few different ways to work, as outlined above, and depending upon the therapist's expertise.

The choice as to which type of psychotherapy is generally up to the client, unless the therapist thinks that the client needs a higher level of care or a different type of therapy.

Over time, as shown in the examples above, a client can return for different types of therapy (assuming that the therapist does these different forms of therapy) or the client can go to a different therapist (see my article: Returning to Therapy).

If you have been unable to resolve problems on your own, you could benefit from seeing a licensed mental health professional to help you to resolve your problems (see my article:  How to Choose a Psychotherapist).

Freeing yourself from problems that are hindering you from maximizing your potential can lead to living a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

About Me
I am a licensed NYC psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR and Somatic Experiencing therapist (see my article:  The Therapeutic Benefits of Integrative Psychotherapy).

I work with individual adults and couples.

To find out more about me, visit my website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist.

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.






















Saturday, December 16, 2017

Why It's Important For Psychotherapists to Provide Clients With Psychoeducation About How Psychotherapy Works

No one knows how to "do therapy" before they've ever been in therapy.  Even clients who have been in therapy before need psychoeducation about the particular therapy modalities that the current therapist uses and how these modalities work.  

So it's important for the therapist to provide clients with this information during the initial stage of psychotherapy (see my articles at the end of this article).

Why It's Important For Therapists to Provide Clients With Psychoeducation About How Psychotherapy Works
It's common for clients to begin therapy with a certain degree of anxiety.  But when clients have an idea of what to expect in therapy, it helps to ease their anxiety.

It's also important, if possible, for clients to say what they would like to get out of therapy.  I say "if possible," because there are times when clients start psychotherapy and they're not sure what they want from therapy or they might only have a vague idea or, during the initial stage of psychotherapy, they might not know how to articulate their needs and they might need help from the therapist to explore and define their needs (see my article: When You "Just Don't Feel Right" and It's Hard to Put Your Feelings Into Words).  

Psychoeducation About How Psychotherapy Works
The type of information that the therapist provides will depend on the type of therapy that she does.

It's helpful for clients to know how particular treatment modalities work and why it's more effective to work with a psychotherapist than it is to talk to a friend (see my article:  How Talking to a Psychotherapist is Different From Talking to a Friend).  

The following topics, which are listed by therapy modality, are some of the most important areas to discuss as part of the psychoeducation process.

Psychoanalysis and Psychodynamic Psychotherapy 
If the therapist does psychoanalysis or psychodynamic psychotherapy, she might talk to the client about transference/countertransference issues (see my article: Psychotherapy and the Positive Transference).

She will also probably discuss the importance of the unconscious mind, dreams, and the intersubjective process in therapy.

See my articles:





Also, within psychoanalysis and psychodynamic psychotherapy, there are various ways of working.  For instance, I work as a Relational psychotherapist, which is a contemporary, interactive form of psychoanalytic/psychodynamic psychotherapy. Another psychotherapist who does psychoanalysis might use a Classical Freudian method or do Kleinian therapy, and so on.

EMDR Therapy 
If the therapist does EMDR therapy, she could talk about how EMDR can resolve trauma through memory reconsolidating and what are considered Big-T and Small-T trauma.

See my articles: 





Somatic Experiencing/Somatic Psychotherapy
If the therapist uses Somatic Experiencing or Somatic Psychotherapy, she would probably talk about the mind-body connection, and how the body holds unconscious memories.
See my articles: 





Clinical Hypnosis (also known as Hypnotherapy)
If the therapist uses clinical hypnosis, she would probably not only explain hypnosis, but she would also dispel some of the myths about hypnosis that have been perpetuated in movies and TV programs (i.e., the myth that hypnosis is a form of "mind control") and also about how clients maintain a dual awareness during hypnosis about being in the here-and-now as well as in the space of whatever comes up in the hypnosis.

See my articles: 





Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
For the therapist who uses cognitive-behavioral therapy (also known as CBT), depending upon the problem, she might explain how desensitization works or why there's usually homework in CBT treatment.  She would probably explain when she uses CBT.  For instance, I use CBT for phobias and certain forms of anxiety.

Ego States Therapy (Parts work)
For the psychotherapist who does Ego States therapy (also known as Parts work), she could talk to the client about the different aspects of the self, dissociation, and shifting self states. 
See my articles: 



Integrative Psychotherapy
If the therapist uses Integrative Psychotherapy, as I do, she would explain how she integrates the various treatment modalities for the most effective treatment.

See my articles: 


Treatment Frame
There are other issues to be discussed during the initial stage of therapy, including the treatment frame (the fee, length of sessions, policies about missed sessions and payment of fees, and so on) so the expectations are clear at the beginning of therapy.

Feedback to and From the Psychotherapist
I believe psychotherapy should be a collaborative process between the client and the therapist.

One of the best predictors of a good outcome in therapy, regardless of the treatment modality, is a good rapport between the therapist and the client, which develops over time.

The Importance of Feedback to and From the Psychotherapist

Regardless of the therapist's experience and skills, if the client and therapist aren't a "good fit," chances are that the therapy won't go well.  That being said, as previously mentioned, most clients feel anxious at the start of therapy because it's uncomfortable for them to talk to a stranger--even the most empathetic stranger, so the client might need to give the process time before deciding if it's a "good fit" or not.

Most therapists are aware that not every therapist is for every client, so they're not offended if the client feels it's not a "good match."   

An open dialog between the client and the therapist is important, especially with regard to whether the therapy is working for the client.  It's important for the therapist to know what's working and what's not working.  

If the client was already informed about the treatment modalities that the therapist uses and how these modalities usually work for the client's presenting problem, he will not be as likely to expect a "quick fix" for a complicated problem.

But if there are areas that might need to be adjusted or if there are things that the therapist might not be aware of (e.g., the client becomes highly activated between sessions and has problems sleeping), this dialog provides the therapist with information to make adjustments to the therapy, if necessary (see my article: Asking For What You Need in Therapy).

If the client doesn't initiate this dialog, I believe it's important for the psychotherapist to "check in" with the client every so often.

Not only does an open dialog provide the client with the important message that the psychotherapist wants and welcomes feedback--even negative feedback--it also reduces the possibility that the client, who has problems expressing his feelings, will leave therapy prematurely (see my article: Ruptures and Repairs in Therapy and When Clients Leave Therapy Prematurely).

The client can also ask for feedback from the therapist about how the therapist thinks the therapy is going from the therapist's perspective.  This helps the client to understand the therapist's thinking about their work together (see my article: A Psychotherapist's Beliefs About Psychotherapy Affect How the Therapist Works With You).

Getting Help in Therapy
As I've mentioned in prior articles, it takes courage to admit you have a problem, even admitting it to yourself, and to get help (see my article: Developing the Courage to Change).

When you know that continuing to do what you've been doing that hasn't worked for you is prolonging your suffering, you owe it to yourself to get help from a licensed mental health professional (see my article: The Benefits of Psychotherapy).

Rather than becoming overwhelmed by the process, it's important to take it one step at a time.  After you've acknowledged to yourself that you have a problem, the next step is to contact a psychotherapist for a consultation (see my article: How to Choose a Psychotherapist). 

During the consultation, you can give an overview of your problem and ask the therapists questions.

An experienced psychotherapist can help you to work through your problem so you can liberate yourself from your history and have a sense of well-being.

About Me
I am a licensed NYC psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR and Somatic Experiencing therapist who provides integrative psychotherapy to individual adults and couples.

To find out more about me, visit my website:

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.
















Monday, October 23, 2017

The Therapeutic Benefits of Integrative Psychotherapy

Integrative psychotherapy is a client-centered approach to therapy that combines various forms of psychotherapy depending upon the needs of each client and the skills of the psychotherapist (see my article: The Benefits of Psychotherapy).

The Therapeutic Benefits of Integrative Psychotherapy

Psychotherapists, who use integrative psychotherapy, choose the types of therapy that they combine for each client.

As a psychotherapist, I combine a psychodynamic approach with various forms of mind-body oriented psychotherapy, including EMDR therapy, clinical hypnosis, Somatic Experiencing and Ego States work.

The benefit of using integrative psychotherapy is that the psychotherapist has many different ways that she works so that she can find the approach that is best suited for each client.

Integrated psychotherapy can be used together or separately at different points in therapy.

Let's take a look at a fictionalized vignette to see how integrative psychotherapy can be used:

Pat
Pat came to therapy to work on unresolved childhood trauma that was affecting her in her relationships.

She had heard from a friend, who was in EMDR therapy, that EMDR was effective in helping her friend to overcome emotional trauma, so Pat requested EMDR therapy.

Pat chose a psychotherapist who practices integrated psychotherapy, which included EMDR therapy, among other treatment modalities.

The Therapeutic Benefits of Integrative Psychotherapy

After the initial consultation and the history taking sessions, her therapist discussed the preparation phase of EMDR where the therapist assists the client to develop internal resources to deal with whatever might come up in EMDR therapy.  This is called the resourcing phase of EMDR therapy.

Since the therapist was also trained in clinical hypnosis, after discussing hypnosis with Pat, the therapist helped Pat to imagine a relaxing place (see my article: Safe Place Meditation).

While Pat was in a relaxed hypnotic state, she imagined herself on the beach and, using hypnosis, her therapist helped her to engage all her senses (sight, sound, smell, taste, physical sensation, hearing) to make the image as vivid as possible.

Afterwards, Pat said she felt very relaxed and she could use this image of the beach if anything came up in EMDR therapy that was disturbing to her.

Using clinical hypnosis, her therapist also helped Pat to imagine various friends and loved ones that had qualities that she liked (a nurturing person, a wise person, and a powerful person).  These are called imagine interweaves and they are also part of the resourcing phase of EMDR therapy.

Pat and her therapist talked about touchstone memories that related to the unresolved trauma, so Pat chose certain memories that reflected how emotionally neglected and invisible she felt as a child (see my article: What is Childhood Emotional Neglect? and Growing Up Feeling Invisible and Emotionally Invalidated).

Pat chose a memory that was emblematic of her parents neglecting her emotionally, and her therapist asked her, as part of the EMDR Therapy protocol, what negative belief she had about herself as it related to this memory.

Pat thought about it for a moment, and then she said, "It makes me feel unlovable, and I've felt this way my whole life" (see my article: Overcoming the Emotional Pain of Feeling Unlovable).

As Pat and her therapist began working on the memory using EMDR, they came to an obstacle in the work.  Although Pat made clinical improvements until then, she was unable to get beyond a certain point in the therapy.

This is a common problem in trauma therapy, and her therapist helped Pat to explore if there was a particular belief (called a blocking belief in EMDR) that kept Pat from making further progress in their work.

Using Somatic Experiencing, her therapist helped Pat to explore what the blocking belief might be.

At first, Pat couldn't come up with anything.  But when her therapist asked Pat to sense into her body and see what she felt when she thought about the trauma being resolved, Pat said that she felt a tightening in her stomach (see my article: The Body Offers a Window Into the Unconscious Mind).

Her therapist helped Pat to describe this tight feeling in her stomach and to put words to this feeling.  Pat responded by saying, "I don't deserve to be loved."

As soon as she said this, Pat wanted to take it back.  She said, "I'm surprised that this is what came up because I don't feel this way completely."

Pat's therapist helped Pat to understand that we all have different aspects that make up who we are, and that there can be parts of ourselves that feel a certain way and other parts that don't (see my article: Understanding the Different Aspects of Yourself That Make You Who You Are).

In Pat's case, there was a significant part of her that felt that she didn't deserve to be loved, and until her therapist could work with this part, their work together would remain blocked.

Using a combination of clinical hypnosis and Ego States work (also called Parts work), her therapist helped Pat to give a voice to this part who felt undeserving of love.  It turned out to be a very young part that had internalized her parents' emotional neglect and believed that Pat was unlovable.

By asking Pat to imagine this young aspect of herself sitting next to her, her therapist helped Pat to understand this part.

Using Ego States work, her therapist helped Pat to embody this young part so she could express what this young part needed.  Then, her therapist asked Pat to switch back to her adult self and to imagine her adult self holding and nurturing the younger part.  Then, she asked Pat to embody the child part and to feel the love that was coming from the adult part of her.

Since this was a very ingrained blocking belief, Pat and her therapist continued to do Ego States work  for several sessions until the younger part felt nurtured and deserving of love.

The Therapeutic Benefits of Integrative Psychotherapy

At that point, the blocking belief was resolved, and they were able to go back to doing EMDR therapy without any further problems.

Conclusion
Integrative psychotherapy combines various forms of therapy based on the client's needs and the psychotherapist's knowledge and skills.

The fictionalized vignette above demonstrates how various forms of therapy, including EMDR therapy, Somatic Experiencing, clinical hypnosis and Ego States work can be combined based on the needs of a particular client.

Not every therapist uses integrative psychotherapy.  So, in the case above, for a psychotherapist who only does EMDR therapy, she might have to use another approach to overcome the blocking belief.

In my experience, using integrative psychotherapy offers the therapist the best possible tools to help the client overcome problems that come up in the work, and it is more effective than just using one treatment modality, especially since there is no "one size fits all" form of therapy that works for every client.

Getting Help in Therapy
If you've decided that you could benefit from attending psychotherapy, it's good to be an informed consumer, which means educating yourself about the various forms of therapy (see my article: How to Choose a Psychotherapist).

When you see a psychotherapist for an initial consultation, you can ask the therapist how she works and what treatment modalities she uses.

In my professional opinion as a psychotherapist, an integrative approach that includes various mind-body oriented therapies is the most effective approach for most clients.

About Me
I am a licensed NYC psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, EFT, Somatic Experiencing and Sex Therapist.

I use an integrative approach that combines mind-body oriented therapy with psychodynamic therapy.  

I work with individual adults and couples.

To find out more about me, visit my website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist.

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 or email me.















Thursday, February 7, 2013

An Emotional Dilemma in a Relationship: Wanting and Dreading Love

Many people, who have experienced childhood trauma, come to therapy because they feel stuck and confused when it comes to romantic relationships.  They often feel highly ambivalent about the possibility of having an intimate connection to another person.  

An Emotional Dilemma: Wanting and Dreading Love

On the one hand, they might be very lonely and long for someone who would love them and that they could love.  On the other hand, they might also feel extremely frightened of allowing themselves to be that emotionally vulnerable.  And therein lies the dilemma.

Early Attachment Problems Can Cause Problems in Relationships Later On
Usually, people who go back and forth between wanting and dreading a deep emotional connection experienced emotional attachment problems with one or both parents or caregivers.  Based on infant research, we now know how important early attachment is to having a healthy emotional life and being able to form intimate attachments with others.

When parents are either emotionally unreliable, neglectful, abusive, depressed, or emotionally unattuned to their young children, these children are more apt to grow up feeling emotionally insecure and vulnerable about forming relationships.  It's hard for them to trust.  They're very afraid of getting hurt or being emotionally abandoned again.  As a result, although they might feel very isolated and lonely, it's often difficult to allow themselves to open up emotionally to others.

An Emotional Dilemma: Wanting and Dreading Love


Fear of Opening Up in Therapy
Often, people who struggle between wanting and dreading an intimate connection find it difficult to come to therapy to get help for this issue.  Coming to therapy means opening up and taking a risk with a therapist, which means allowing themselves to be vulnerable.  How do they know they can trust the therapist when they couldn't trust their own parents?  It's a dilemma.


For many people who somewhat overcome their fear to come to therapy, at least enough to come to a first session, their experience is often one of being hypervigilant--waiting to see if there are any signs that the therapist will betray or hurt them in some way.

A skilled clinician, who has worked with clients on developmental attachment problems, will know not to take it personally.  She would know that she must take her time to help the client to form a therapeutic alliance over time to build a rapport and trust.

Many clients, who suffer with developmental attachment issues, find it difficult to sustain treatment, and they leave after a few sessions.  Often, they give another "reason" for leaving therapy--money or time issues, never revealing that it's their dread of opening up that's making them want to flee from treatment.

For clients who can sustain treatment with therapists who have expertise in working with attachment issues, if they can allow themselves to build a rapport and trust with the an empathetic therapist, over time, they can also learn to form trusting and loving relationships outside of treatment.

This is the kind of therapeutic work that takes time.  A client, who has a fear of getting close to others, can't be rushed into overcoming his or her fear.  Each client is different and, if there is progress in treatment, it will probably be a process where it is two steps forward and one step backward due to the high level of ambivalence and fear.  There is also usually a lot of underlying shame of feeling "not good enough" or "not lovable."

Getting Help in Therapy


Wanting and Dreading Love:  Feeling Lost?  Get Help

My experience has been that using a combination of Somatic Experiencing, psychodynamic psychotherapy, resourcing (i.e., helping the client to develop better coping skills and an increased capacity to tolerate vulnerability) along with an expertise in developmental attachment issues, is often the most effective way to help clients to overcome the dilemma of longing for love and dreading it at the same time.

About Me:
I am a licensed NYC psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR and Somatic Experiencing therapist.

I work with individual adults and couples.

To find out more abut me, visit my website:  Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.