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I am a licensed NYC psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, Somatic Experiencing, EFT Couples Therapist and Sex Therapist. My focus tends to be experiential psychotherapy. See my profile for more info. This site is not intended as a substitute for psychotherapy. No client-counselor relationship exists between the user and the owner of this site. To set up a consultation with me please call (917) 742-2624. All material on this site is copyrighted and cannot be used without permission.

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Tuesday, September 22, 2026

What's the Difference Between Fear and Anxiety?

Your heart races, your muscles tighten, and your breathing grows shallow. While the somatic sensations feel nearly identical, your nervous system is actually reacting to two entirely different psychological states.

A thoughtful woman walking along a scenic autumn park path lined with fall leaves, visually representing the difference between real-time fear and future-oriented anxiety. Published by Josephine Ferraro, LCSW in Greenwich Village, NY.

Navigating the unknown: While fear is an automatic response to an immediate present threat, anxiety is a future-oriented state of hypervigilance focused on what lies down the path.

The words "fear" and "anxiety" are frequently used interchangeably in everyday conversation. However, understanding the functional differences between them is a crucial first step toward regulating your nervous system and reclaiming emotional peace.

What's the Difference Between Fear and Anxiety?

The fundamental difference between fear and anxiety is the timeline and presence of the threat. Fear is an automatic, instinctual emotional response to a real, known, and immediate present danger. Anxiety, conversely, is a future-oriented, vague feeling of apprehension or dread regarding an anticipated, unknown, or perceived threat.

To understand how these function in real life, consider these clinical examples:

Fear in Action: If someone approaches you on the street in an aggressive, menacing way, your body experiences fear. The danger is specific, real, and happening in the here and now.
Anxiety in Action: If you struggle with a fear of flying and have an upcoming trip next month, the dread you feel weeks in advance is anxiety. You are anticipating a future event. However, the moment you step onto the aircraft and the doors close, that anticipation transforms into active fear because the stimulus is now present.

Physical and Emotional Symptoms of Anxiety

When anxiety becomes chronic, it shifts out of a temporary state of apprehension and manifests as persistent mind-body distress. Anxiety can cause a wide array of somatic and cognitive symptoms, including:

Somatic & Physical Tension: Muscle pain, jaw clenching, chronic headaches, excessive sweating, shaking, or trembling.
Cardiovascular & Gastrointestinal Distress: A racing heart, chest tightness, dizziness, feeling faint, upset stomach, and Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS).
Nervous System Dysregulation: Insomnia, constant hypervigilance, and acute panic attacks.

Because fear can trigger residual anxiety, and chronic anxiety lowers your threshold for fear, these two states can easily trap your body in a continuous, exhausting survival loop.

Fear and Anxiety Produce a Stress Response

Both states activate the body’s sympathetic nervous system, triggering the classic fight-or-flight response. This automatic mechanism is highly adaptive and designed entirely to keep you alive.

For instance, if you are walking down a path and catch a glimpse of a snake, your body jumps back before your logical mind even registers what you saw. In moments of true danger, you do not want to pause and think—a microsecond difference saves your life.

However, if you land from that jump and realize the "snake" was actually just a stick, your parasympathetic nervous system begins to kick in, calming your heart rate because the present threat is gone.

When a threat is overwhelming and you can neither fight nor flee, your nervous system resorts to the freeze response (see my article: Overcoming the Freeze Response). The problem occurs when historical trauma leaves your system permanently stuck in this freeze or fight-or-flight loop, even when you are intellectually safe.

Restoring Safety Through Psychotherapy

Living under the constant weight of chronic fear or anxiety leaves your body exhausted and emotionally isolated. If you are struggling with these overwhelming states, you do not have to navigate them on your own.

When persistent anxiety is rooted in unresolved trauma, traditional talk therapy can sometimes fall short. Sustainable recovery requires working with a trauma-informed specialist trained to address both acute events and developmental trauma—the repeated stress or relational losses carried from childhood.

Specialized mind-body therapies can help your nervous system unlearn its survival patterns, allowing you to step out of hypervigilance and lead a calmer, more peaceful life.

About Josephine Ferraro, LCSW

I am a licensed New York City psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, and certified sex therapist with advanced training in EMDR, AEDP, IFS, Somatic Experiencing and EFT for couples counseling.

Utilizing an integrative psychotherapeutic framework, I help individual adults and couples heal trauma, manage debilitating anxiety, and restore somatic safety to their daily lives.

Ready to find relief from chronic stress?
I offer a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation to discuss your clinical needs and explore how we can work together.

I see clients in person at my office in Greenwich Village, New York (10011) and online via secure telehealth.

Website: Visit Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist to learn more.
Phone: Call me directly at (917) 742-2624 during regular business hours.
Email: josephineferraro@iCloud.com

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Saturday, November 1, 2025

Discovering Your Core Self in IFS Parts Work Therapy

I've written several articles about IFS Parts Work Therapy in the past (see the links at the end of this article).

Discovering Core Self in IFS Therapy

What is Core Self in IFS Parts Work Therapy?

IFS is Internal Family Systems an evidence-based therapy developed by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz to help clients heal from psychological trauma.

From the IFS perspective, Core Self is an innate state of being that everyone possesses.

Unlike parts, which are like subpersonalities in IFS, Core Self isn't a part of the personality. IFS posits that the Core Self is in a self leadership role in every person and one way to describe Core Self is in terms of the 8 Cs:

Compassion
Curiosity
Clarity
Creativity
Calmness
Confidence
Courage
Connectedness

How Can You Access Your Core Self?

The Core Self can be accessed through various practices including:

Mindfulness: A basic mindfulness exercise involves focusing on your breath while allowing whatever thoughts and feelings to come up without judgment.

Meditation: Guided meditations can help you to connect with your Core Self so you can experience yourself in a deeper way.

Discovering Core Self in IFS Parts Therapy

Self Compassion: Practicing self compassion is key to connecting with your Core Self. Self compassion allows you to connect with yourself in a loving nonjudgmental way.

Focusing on Your Body: Taking time to notice physical sensations in your body in a gentle and loving way can help you to connect with your body's innate wisdom (see my article: The Mind-Body Connection: The Body Offers a Window Into the Unconscious Mind).

How is Core Self Different From Parts of Yourself?

Parts: Everyone is made up of a multiplicity of selves.. In this case, I'm not talking about multiple personality disorder. Instead, I'm talking about the many subpersonalities that everyone possesses that carry many emotions, beliefs and histories. There are no "bad parts" and it's not the goal of IFS to get rid of any of the parts. However, some of the parts might be in need of healing because they have taken on extreme roles due to trauma.

Core Self: Core Self is distinct from parts. The Core Self, which is also called the True Self, Higher Self or the Self (with a capital "S"), is the source of your inner wisdom and healing. When you are within the perspective of your Core Self, the Core Self can work with your parts instead of being overwhelmed by parts.

The Core Self can be difficult to access when your parts are activated and "in charge" of you, but you can learn to access Core Self (as described in the vignette below).

Clinical Vignette

The following clinical vignette, which is a composite of many cases, illustrates how a client in IFS Parts Work Therapy can access Core Self to heal from trauma:

Tina

When Tina sought help in IFS Parts Work Therapy, she felt overwhelmed by unresolved childhood trauma.

Discovering Your Core Self in IFS Therapy

Although she had close friends, Tina had difficulty maintaining romantic relationships once they became serious. Over time, Tina became emotionally distant in her relationships because she felt too emotionally vulnerable to express her feelings with the partner she was seeing at the time.

Her pattern was that she would be happy and excited to get into a new relationship, but when she and her partner developed deeper feelings for each other, her trauma symptoms got triggered.

She grew up in a family where her mother was emotionally distant and her father, whom she felt a closer connection to, disappeared one day when she was seven years old. After that, her mother became depressed and barely got out of bed, so Tina's aunt came to help them.

No one ever discussed what happened to her father and, as many children do, Tina blamed herself for her father abandoning the family.

Several years later, Tina found out from a neighbor that her father left her family to be with another woman and he started a new family. When Tina tried to contact him, her father refused to talk to her.

Many years later, when Tina was in her 30s, her father contacted her out of the blue because he had terminal cancer. By then, his second wife had left him and his children from the second marriage didn't want to maintain contact with him.

Since her father had no one to look after him, Tina allowed him to stay with her while he had cancer treatment. She had a lot of ambivalence about taking him in, but she didn't feel she could send him away.

During the next two years, Tina and her father worked towards reconciling their father-daughter relationship. Her father regretted how he left her and her mother and he asked for Tina's forgiveness. Knowing he was going to die, Tina told him that she forgave him, but deep down she still felt the hurt and pain of her younger self who was abandoned.

This hurt and pain related to her father's abandonment carried over into her romantic relationships as soon as she became emotionally invested in the relationship. She feared she would be abandoned again and she dealt with it by becoming emotionally numb.

When Tina sought help in IFS Parts Work Therapy, her therapist provided her with psychoeducation about IFS.

She also helped Tina to develop the necessary tools and coping strategies to do the deep work involved with IFS, and Tina also journaled and meditated between sessions.

After her therapist discussed Core Self, Tina took time during her busy week to access this deeper part of herself through mindfulness meditation.

Over time, she also learned to distinguish between the fearful and anxious parts of herself and her Core Self. She knew that whenever she felt fearful or anxious, she was looking through the perspective of one or more parts. And when she felt calm and compassionate, she was in touch with her Core Self.

Discovering Your Core Self in IFS Parts Work Therapy

This was the early stage of her IFS therapy and she was aware she and her therapist needed to do work on the parts that were causing her to feel fear and anxiety. But after she learned to switch her perspective from her parts to her Core Self, she felt calmer and more in charge of her life.

Over time, with the help of IFS Therapy, Tina was able to develop a new relationship beyond the initial honeymoon stage. Although it was challenging for her, she used the tools she learned in IFS to heal her trauma and remain in her relationship.

Conclusion

Core Self is the innate essence that everyone possesses.

It can be challenging to access Core Self when you are immersed in parts, including anxious, fearful, ashamed or angry parts.

IFS Parts Work Therapy provides ways to access Core Self during the initial stage of IFS Therapy.

Once clients can access their Core Self, they can work in IFS to deal with the wounded and traumatized parts.

Getting Help in IFS Parts Work Therapy

IFS Parts Work Therapy is an evidence-based effective form of trauma therapy.

If you're struggling with unresolved trauma, you could benefit from working with an IFS therapist so you can free yourself from the effects of your traumatic history.

About Me

I am a licensed New York psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, EFT (for couples), Parts Work (IFS and Ego States Therapy), Somatic Experiencing and Certified Sex Therapist.

As a trauma therapist, I have helped many individual adults and couples to overcome trauma.

To find out more about me, visit my website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychtherapist.

To set up a consultation, call at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.

Also See My Other IFS Articles:

How Does Parts Work Therapy, Like IFS and Ego States Therapy, Help You to Understand Yourself

Understanding the Different Parts of Yourself

Parts Work Therapy Can Be Empowering

How Can IFS Parts Work Therapy Help With Anxiety?

Is an Unconscious Part of Yourself Running Your Life?

Monday, September 1, 2025

How to Quiet Your Overthinking Mind

The first step in quieting your overthinking mind is becoming aware of what you're worrying about and how it's affecting you.

How is Your Overthinking Mind Affecting You?

Worrying can take a toll on your physical and mental well-being.