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But if you find yourself spending more and more time with your thoughts focused on someone else, you need to admit this to yourself and recognize it as a sign that there's a problem.
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If, after thinking about the state of your relationship, you realize you haven't been as attentive as you used to be, ask yourself why and what you can do to change.
Don't tell your spouse that you're consumed with thoughts about someone else. This would be hurtful to hear and it won't improve things between you.
Ask your spouse how s/he is feeling and if there are ways the two of you can enhance your relationship.
For instance, you and your spouse can probably make some changes in your love life or your social life.
Whether you're on the fence about the relationship or you know you want to end your relationship, you and your spouse could benefit from talking to a couples counselor.
A couples counselor can help you to be your "better selves" rather than ending the relationship with animosity.
Problems are usually easier to deal with earlier rather than later, so if you and your spouse or partner are having problems, don't wait. Get help.