What Are the Psychological Benefits of Play For Adults?

When was the last time you played as an adult just for the fun of it—without a goal, a metric, or an agenda?

For most adults, play sits at the very bottom of the priority list...

Adult play is a neurological and psychological necessity that goes far beyond simple entertainment; it is an active state of open-ended engagement that promotes emotional regulation and neuroplasticity. Despite intense professional and societal pressures, contemporary neurobiological research confirms that maintaining an active sense of playfulness is vital for sustainable mental health.

Adult play—like a high-stakes game of tumbling blocks—is a neurological necessity that lowers stress, boosts cognitive flexibility, and creates moments of shared joy.

Studies from organizations like the National Institute for Play indicate that play is a core biological drive. It is essential for optimal cognitive function, stress resilience, and deep psychological well-being.

The key psychological benefits of adult play include:

• Stress Reduction and Cortisol Regulation: Engaging in playful activities triggers the immediate release of endorphins and dopamine while actively down-regulating cortisol. Highly playful adults experience lower levels of perceived stress and utilize healthier, adaptive coping mechanisms—such as positive reframing—rather than avoidant or numbing behaviors.
• Preventing Workplace Burnout: Unstructured play serves as a vital psychological buffer against chronic stress. Research shows that play directly enhances emotional intelligence and strengthens personal resilience, allowing adults to bounce back faster from professional exhaustion and systemic adversity.
• Cognitive Flexibility and Flow States: Play acts as a cognitive refresh by removing the pressure of goal-driven thinking. Engaging in mentally stimulating, unstructured play (like complex puzzles, strategic board games, or creative arts) stimulates lateral problem-solving. This cognitive unburdening makes it significantly easier to enter deeply satisfying flow states (see my article: What is a Flow State?).

• Combating Loneliness and Isolation: Group play, cooperative games, and shared laughter foster empathy, trust, and interpersonal intimacy. Cultivating structured social play as an adult significantly reduces modern feelings of loneliness and deepens social connectedness.

How Do Adults Play?

Somatic and behavioral researchers generally categorize adult play into three distinct archetypes:

• Active Form: Engaging in recreational sports, dance, or physical movement that emphasizes agility and teamwork.
• Digital & Strategic Play: Participating in video games, cooperative tabletop games, or complex puzzles that stimulate cognitive strategy.
• Unstructured Hobbies: Immersing yourself in painting, playing music, gardening, or trying a new craft purely for the joy of creation without criticizing the final product.

How Can You Reclaim Your Sense of Play?

If you are ready to invite more playfulness back into your daily routine, start with these actionable steps:

1. Give Yourself Explicit Permission: The single largest barrier to adult play is internal. Remind yourself that play is not frivolous. By prioritizing joy, you can quiet the inner critic that judges you for being "unproductive."
2. Lower the Stakes and Start Small: You do not have to immediately join a competitive sports league. Start low-commitment to reduce performance anxiety. Put on your favorite music and dance in your living room, or spend ten minutes coloring.
3. Follow Your Curiosity: Explore what genuinely lights you up. Do you prefer games with clear winners and losers, or do you like making things with your hands? Are you drawn to laughter and silliness, or do you prefer play that involves movement and somatic awareness?
4. Notice Play in Everyday Mindsets: Playfulness is ultimately a state of mind. You can weave it into your day through common, everyday examples like doodling during a break, improvisational cooking without a recipe, daydreaming, or exploring nature without a fixed destination.

Conclusion

When you deliberately weave play into your life, you realize that your existence isn't meant to be entirely about maximizing productivity or enduring daily challenges. It is also about experiencing radical joy, safety, and vitality in your own skin.

About Josephine Ferraro, LCSW

I am a licensed New York psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, and certified sex therapist with advanced clinical training in EMDR, AEDP, IFS, EFT for couples, and Somatic Experiencing. 

Over the years, I have helped many individual adults and couples heal trauma, navigate workplace burnout, and restore mind-body distress.

Ready to reclaim your vitality?
I offer a complimentary 15-minute phone call to discuss your needs.

I see clients in person at my office in Greenwich Village, New York (10011) and online via secure telehealth.

• Website: Visit Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist to learn more.
• Phone: Reach out directly at (917) 742-2624 during regular business hours.
• Email: josephineferraro@iCloud.com

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IFS-Informed EMDR: What Are the Benefits of Integrating EMDR and IFS Parts Work Therapy?

This article was updated on September 20, 2026.

Combining EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and IFS (Internal Family Systems) Parts Work Therapy creates a powerful, synergistic approach for recovering from trauma.

Like layers of a wave, IFS-informed EMDR safely reaches the deeper parts of our internal system to promote natural emotional healing

What is EMDR Therapy?

EMDR is an evidence-based psychotherapy that helps individuals process and heal from traumatic memories. By utilizing bilateral stimulation—such as side-to-side eye movements, taps, or tones—EMDR stimulates the brain's natural healing mechanism, allowing stuck, distressing memories to be safely integrated into the nervous system.

IFS Parts Work Therapy: A Gentle, Evidence-Based Trauma Therapy

IFS is a non-pathologizing approach that views the human psyche as a system of various "parts," led by a core, undamaged Self. In this framework, symptoms like anxiety, shame, or dissociation are understood not as pathologies, but as protective strategies deployed by parts trying to shield the individual from pain.

How Are EMDR and IFS Therapies Integrated For Trauma Processing?

EMDR therapy uses accelerated processing to target traumatic memories, while IFS provides a gentle framework that honors the many aspects of the client's personality. Blending these two modalities is called IFS-informed EMDR. This integration helps trauma therapists navigate dissociation, resistance, and processing blocks for clients with unresolved psychological trauma.

The 8 Phases of EMDR Through an IFS Lens

Phases 1 and 2: History Taking, Treatment Planning, and Preparation

Whereas traditional EMDR focuses primarily on identifying target memories and teaching basic grounding skills, integrating IFS shifts the focus to mapping the client's internal system and establishing foundational safety:

• Parts Mapping: The trauma therapist maps out the client's psychological protective system. This includes Managers (proactive protectors) and Firefighters (reactive protectors). The wounded parts holding the trauma history are known as Exiles.
• Identifying Negative Beliefs as Parts: Instead of treating negative beliefs purely as cognitive distortions, the therapist treats statements like "I'm unlovable" or "I'm powerless" as protective parts trying to shield the client from future harm.
• Cultivating Core Self Energy: The therapist ensures the client can access their Core Self, which is characterized by compassion, curiosity, and calm. The Core Self acts as the primary internal resource before trauma processing begins.

Phases 3 and 4: Assessment and Reprocessing

This is where the true synergy of integrating EMDR and IFS takes place. Instead of framing a client's "resistance" as a hurdle, the therapist honors the protective nature of resistant parts and uses IFS to clear the path for bilateral stimulation:

• Securing Protector Consent: Before using bilateral stimulation on a traumatic memory, the therapist checks with the protective part guarding that memory. She might ask, "Is it okay if we look at this memory today? Would you be willing to step aside?"
• Handling Looping and Blocks: If processing stalls or the client dissociates, the therapist recognizes that a protector has stepped in to buffer the intensity. The therapist introduces an IFS-informed cognitive interweave: "Can the part blocking the processing let us know what it is worried would happen if we keep going?"
• Maintaining Functional Dual Attention: Dual attention means the client keeps one foot firmly in the present moment (anchored in Core Self energy) while simultaneously witnessing the Exile's trauma during bilateral stimulation (see my article: What is Dual Awareness in Psychotherapy?)

Phases 5 and 6: Installation and Body Scan

Once a memory has been desensitized, the focus shifts to internal alignment and somatic integration:

• Inviting Parts to "Try On" Positive Beliefs: Instead of installing a positive belief globally, the therapist checks how individual parts receive it. She will ask if the protective parts feel safe adopting a statement like "I am lovable" or "I feel empowered."
• Somatic "Befriending": During the body scan, if residual tension is detected, the therapist treats the physical sensation as a part. They guide the client to bring curiosity to that area of the body to discover what emotional burden it is holding.

Phases 7 and 8: Closure and Re-evaluation

These final phases ensure the internal system remains stable, respected, and cohesive between sessions:

• Systemic Inclusion: Before closing an incomplete session, the therapist explicitly checks back in with the protectors that stepped aside. She acknowledges their hard work, thanks them for their cooperation, and ensures they feel safe returning to their roles until the next session.
• Assessing Systemic Shifts: At the start of the next session, the therapist evaluates the client's inner world to see how the parts reacted to the previous processing, checking if new protectors emerged or if old ones feel lighter.

What Are the Benefits of Integrating EMDR and IFS Parts Work Therapy?

IFS-informed EMDR addresses the limitations of each modality when used alone, offering several distinct clinical advantages:

• Reducing Dissociation and Emotional Flooding: Traditional EMDR can sometimes overwhelm clients with complex trauma, leading to dissociation. By identifying and gaining permission from protective parts first, the pacing naturally matches the client's internal threshold, preventing sudden decompensation.
• Overcoming Treatment Blocks and Looping: In traditional EMDR, processing can stall ("loop") when defenses resist a memory. By using IFS, the therapist pauses to hear the protector's fears (e.g., "If I let go of this fear, I'll be at risk of being traumatized again"), unblocking the process without triggering internal conflict.
• Providing an Internal Attachment Figure: Traditional EMDR relies heavily on the therapist as the external source of safety. IFS cultivates the client's own Core Self energy to act as the primary healing agent. The client's Core Self becomes the internal attachment figure that holds, validates, and "re-parents" the wounded Exile.
• Maximizing Safety for Complex PTSD: Clients with complex developmental trauma often lack a single, clear target memory. IFS mapping provides a structured internal roadmap, allowing therapists to target the relationships between parts or focus on the negative core beliefs held by a specific part (see my article: Combining EMDR and IFS to Overcome Emotional Blocks).
• Enhancing Post-Session Integration: After an intense EMDR session, clients can experience a backlash from internal defenses that feel blindsided by rapid changes. Explicitly thanking the protectors and checking back in before ending the session ensures the whole system feels respected, drastically reducing post-session vulnerability.

Conclusion

Integrating EMDR therapy and IFS Therapy combines the rapid, neurobiological processing of EMDR with the gentle, deeply respectful framework of IFS.

Get Help with IFS-Informed EMDR Therapy

Whereas traditional talk therapy is primarily a top-down approach, both EMDR and IFS operate as bottom-up approaches (see my article: What is the Difference Between "Top Down" and "Bottom Up" Approaches to Therapy?). 

If traditional talk therapy hasn't given you the relief you need, you could benefit from working with a licensed mental health professional who integrates these modalities.

Rather than struggling through recovery on your own, seek out this integrated approach to safely work through trauma and step into a more fulfilling life.

About Josephine Ferraro, LCSW

I am a licensed New York psychotherapist, hypnotherapist and advanced practitioner of EMDR, IFS, AEDP, Somatic Experiencing, and a Certified Sex Therapy. 

As a trauma specialist, I have helped many individual adults and couples build lasting healing over the years.

I offer a complimentary 15 minute phone call before setting up an appointment.

I see clients in my Greenwich Village, New York (10011) office and online.

Website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist

Contact: (917) 742-2624 (business hours) or josephineferraro@iCloud.com

Also See My Articles:

• EMDR Therapy - When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough
  
• How Are Emotions Processed in EMDR?
  
• What Are Imaginal Interweaves in EMDR?
  
• What is the Connection Between IFS Therapy and Neural Networks?