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Thursday, July 4, 2024

What You Need to Know About the G-spot

What is the G-spot?
The G-spot is part of women's larger clitoral network which means it's part of the clitoris. 

The G-spot is Part of the Larger Clitoral Network

The G-spot is known as the Grafenberg spot. It's located on the anterior wall of the vagina. 

How to Find the G-spot
It's best for a woman to start by relaxing and being willing to explore a little because the G-spot can be a little complicated to find.

If a woman is lying down, she or her partner can find the G-spot by inserting a finger an inch or so inside the vagina and touching the upper vaginal wall--the spot that is on the same side as the belly button.

How to Stimulate the G-spot
Dr. Beverly Whipple, an American sexologist, discovered that by making a "come here" motion with a finger inside the vagina on the upper wall, this can stimulate the G-spot.

Since the G-spot is part of the clitoral network, when you stimulate the G-spot, you're stimulating part of the clitoris.

Stimulating Her G-spot

Most people think the clitoris is only the pea size nub which is part of the vulva and visible to the eye. But the part of the clitoris that is visible to the eye is only a small part of it. The clitoris actually extends inside the vagina and divides into two "roots" which can be four inches long inside.

The location of the G-spot varies somewhat from woman to woman, which is another reason why it can be difficult to find at first.

What is Squirting?
Stimulation of the G-spot can cause a woman to squirt, especially if her outer clitoris is being stimulated with cunninlingus (oral sex for women) or fingering of the outer part of the clitoris at the same time the G-spot is being stimulated.

Squirting,which is also known as female ejaculation, is a release of fluid during an orgasm. 

The fluid is a combination of urea, uric acid, creatinine and some urine released from the Skene's glands, which are at the lower end of the urethra.

Simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and the G-spot can result in squirting.

Squirting varies from women to woman. Not all women squirt. Some women might squirt once in their life and never again. Others might squirt more frequently.

Some women are embarrassed when they squirt because it involves a gush of liquid and many women assume that the liquid is all urine.

Squirting has nothing to do with the quality of a woman's sexual pleasure or whether or not she had an orgasm.  A woman can experience a great deal of sexual pleasure, including an orgasm, but she might not squirt.

Squirting became a popular topic on social media because it's often depicted in pornography.  

Unfortunately, pornography is the main source of sexual information for many young people--even though, in reality, the way standard porn depicts sexual pleasure, especially women's sexual pleasure, is distorted, at best, and wrong at worst.

Ethical pornography, which is mostly made by women, has more realistic depictions of sexual pleasure compared to standard pornography.

Standard pornography is mostly made for the male perspective and mainly focused on male pleasure to the exclusion of realistic female pleasure (see my article: What is Ethical Pornography?).

Focus on Sexual Pleasure
As I've mentioned in prior articles, to enjoy sex it's best to focus on sexual pleasure rather than approaching it in a performative way (see my article: What is Performative Sex?).

About Me
I am a licensed New York psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, EFT, Somatic Experiencing and Sex Therapist

I work with individual adults and couples.

To find out more about me, visit my website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist.

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.