Relationships and Mismatched Sex Drives: What is Sexual Desire Discrepancy?

Sexual desire discrepancy is a common problem for many couples (see my article: Have You and Your Spouse Stopped Having Sex?).  In fact, it's one of the most common problems for couples seeking help in couples therapy (see my article: The Paradox of Love and Desire in a Committed Relationship).

Mismatched Sex Drive: Sexual Desire Discrepancy

What is Sexual Desire Discrepancy?

There are times in relationships when individuals aren't in synch with regard to having sex. This isn't unusual.  

But for many couples desire discrepancy is an ongoing problem in the relationship (see my articles: What is Your Erotic Blueprint - Part 1 and Part 2).

What Are Some of the Reasons Sexual Desire Discrepancy?

There are many factors that can cause differences in sexual libido.  Here are some of the most common issues:

• Hormonal issues
• Medication side effects
• Stress
  
• Unresolved trauma
  
• Negative body image
  
• Unresolved resentments within the relationship
• Trust issues
  
• Lack of sexual experience
• Lack of emotional intimacy and vulnerability

And so on.

Many couples who had a satisfying sex life at the start of their relationship develop problems over time (see my articles: What is Good Sex? and Discovering Your Peak Sexual Experiences).

The problem is exacerbated when couples feel uncomfortable talking about sex (see my articles: How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex).

Since this is a big topic, I'll continue discussing it in my next article: Overcoming Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Your Relationship.

Getting Help in Couples Therapy

If you and your partner are experiencing sexual desire discrepancy, you are not alone.  

Get help from a licensed mental health professional who works with couples.

With professional help, many couples are able to overcome sexual desire discrepancy.

Rather than struggling on your own, seek help.

About Me

I am a licensed New York City psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, EMDR, AEDP, EFT, Somatic Experiencing and Sex Therapist.

I am a sex positive therapist who works with individual adults and couples.

To find out more about me, visit my website: Josephine Ferraro, LCSW - NYC Psychotherapist.

To set up a consultation, call me at (917) 742-2624 during business hours or email me.